Little clusters

I have been feeling out of sorts of late, not illness, not depression, just a bit detached from everything. I have no reason to feel this way, things are going well in my life, but there is just this ...thing I can't actually place my hands on. I know it's there, at the back of my mind, but I have decided to leave it there, at the back. I won't give myself headache for something I can't control. Why should I worry? My God is there to deal with it anyway!

Its amazing how far a kind word, thought, deed or prayer will go. In this my "undefined" state, I suddenly saw a notification on my phone, it was a direct message on twitter by @gbemisoke, and she said a word of prayer for me. I can't express how I felt, but it was a word in season. I almost cried when I saw it, and I felt like in the whole universe, God had put a spot light on me.

At the same time, I saw that a friend had changed her DP to my picture and her PM was "Friends are an important part of 1's life: glad I've got my ladies". And I knew that God was just telling me that He had my back no matter what. I know it may sound odd to some of you, but I guess when God relates with each one of us, its weired to the other person, somehow.

I learned more lessons today- 

• When you have  a nudge to do or say something (nice) to someone, don't hesitate for one second. 
• Appreciate your friends. It goes a long way.

I remember my mom always told me that whenever I suddenly thought of someone, I should say a prayer and then communicate with the person. Sometimes I do, sometimes I don't. ( sometimes I actually feel like I am disturbing some people when I keep in touch. Is it just me?). 

There's this song by Donnie McClurkin (feat. Cece, Yolanda and Mary Mary) that also helped me realize that people should smell flowers when they are alive.

Now I know I'll keep this up, because I just got blessed.

Humble Pie

I ate the humble pie 2 Saturdays ago, and I didn't die like I thought I would.

No, I am not proud, but there are many things I would not take. Way back in Secondary School, some of my seniors used to call me "polietly rude". Now that used to get me in stitches (behind their backs of course, if not, I'm sure I may not have been alive to tell the Story today). How can someone be polite and rude at the same time?

Where was I...? Ahh, the humble pie...

I had to make some beads for a customer, but she didn't like the materials I used. Unfortunately, she didn't mention it to me before I made it, I used crystals and she didn't like the fact that they were shiny. it was when she saw the picture she mentioned it to me. I was flustered. What do I do? I had already spent the money on these beads. Who would I sell them to? By the way, I had spent about 3-4 nights steadfastly on this as I work during the day. I had even told her two weeks, but it was ready before then. 

I took a picture of the beads after I was done and used it as my blackberry Display Picture. She pinged me and asked why I was using her jewelry as her DP, and said she didn't like the beads I used. I got irritated. Was she telling me to ask for permission before I used my "work" as my Dp? We started going backwards and forward with me saying I informed her about using crystals and she saying she didn't know what they were. At the end of the day, I just told her i'd refund her money, and she agreed.

I told my tutor, who gave me a lesson on being more patient and tolerant. I ended up apologizing to my client and telling her i'd make a new jewelry for her, but will send her a picture of the beads before I actually made it. Surprisingly, she said she'll take the ones I had made earlier. I insisted that I could and wanted to make a new one, but she said she was fine with it.

In the end, I sent it to her, and that was the end of the matter.

I learnt a big lesson that day- 

1. The customer is always right because they hold the purse! 
2. If you render services, get ready to take it all- money, insults, praise, criticism. It will never kill you.
3. As the Bible says, a gentle answer really does calm wrath. She just wanted me to apologize, and that was rather hard for me at first, but It didn't take anything out of me. 
4. The Humble pie never kills. Heck, you don't even purge when you eat it sef. Lol

oh, I 'll use this opportunity to mention that I make really nice jewelry. Please holler if you or anyone you know is interested. Thank you.

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ALERT: Long Post!!!




I got tagged last week by Sugarspring and A-9ja-Great, and Cee for this "tag 11".


I really want to thank them both for this award. To be very honest, I was actually looking forward to getting tagged. And now, I have been tagged. Three times. Lol!


Its a really dynamic tag award, and I particularly love the way the questions change without warning! lol.


The basic rules are:

1. Post 11 random things about yourself
2. Answer questions posted by the person who tagged you
3. Create 11 questions and tag 11 people to answer your questions
4. Notify those tagged of the game
5. Notify the person who tagged you after you have answered the questions
6. No tag backs

N.B- Since I got tagged by 3 people, I'll answer their questions differently. This should be interesting!!!

11...Random things

1. I love God
2. I hate it when people touch me when there is really no need
3. I love to study people. 
4. I am very level headed
5. I am not a very patient person....working seriously on this
6. I make jewelry (www.flickr.com/photos/emaleecious/)
7. I am into interior decorating
8. I love DIY's
9. I am very independent
10. I just started eating Semovita, and i must say its not as bad as I once thought.
11. I just finished the 11 random things about me. Lol

11...Answers (Sugarspring)

1. Who on earth loves you most (apart from God)- Tony
2. If you were to sacrifice your life for someone, who would it be?- My nephews and Niece
3. Have you ever had a crush?- Oh Yes. In secondary school (Chike) and in University (Tunji)
4. What was the naughtiest thing you did as a child? I rubbed evostic (glue) into my cousin's hair like hair cream...she was pretty annoying.
5. If today was your last day on earth, where would you rather be, what would you do and who would you want to spend your last hour with? In a serene place, just talking and listening, with my boo.
6. If you were given a 2nd chance to begin life again, would you rather be someone else or the same you? I'ld be an improved version of me (wink)
7. What are you passionate about in life? 2 things- creativity and helping people.
8. If you were told to sing a solo for someone on the radio, who would it be going out to? All my "ex-friends". I really don't know the reasons some friendships fail, and I miss some of them.
9. if you were told to make a shout out to just ONE person on TV, who would it be going out to? MY MOM. She is incredible!!!
10. Have you ever cried for a friend? and why? Oh yes, I thought I had lost him, and I was wrong.
11. If Jesus was coming today, would you be ready? Its one thing for me to say yes, and another thing for me to actually be ready. I pray and hope I am indeed raptured with Christ!

11...Answers (A-9Ja's-Great)
1. What's the most important attribute you look for in the opposite sex?- kindness
2. What's your passion?- Creativity. A chance to prove myself
3. What would you do if you had a million dollars? Take myself to the Mediterranean for a well deserved vacation, then establish a camp for the destitute where they can be taught life skills.
4. What do you consider you best attribute? My smile and My eyes
5. When did you have your first kiss? When I was born? Lol!
6. Do you prefer someone in suit or casually dressed? Casually dressed
7. What's the best book you ever read? This Present Darkness- Frank Peretti
8. If you had the opportunity to see any influential person,who would it be? Oprah
9. Do you enjoy PDA (Public Display of Affection)? Somewhat
10. Comedy,Romance,Thriller,Drama,which of these best describes the type of movies you like? Romance...I am in love with love.
11. When exactly would you like to get married and start a family? This year




11...Answers (Cee) 

1. What do you do in your spare time? make jewellery
2. What one thing are you most proud of? Jesus
3. What is your ultimate dream vacation? A cruise to the Mediterranean with my boo
4. What are you most looking forward to in the next year? Completing my MBA (I don tire, abeg)
5. Most important thing you are saving up for? To get me some wheels
6. Have you ever rescued someone? what were the circumstances? No, I haven't. Not yet, anyway.
7. Who influenced me the most when you were a child? Omojo, my sister. I copied her a lot.
8. Who influences you the most now? Well, I'm really independent now... I listen to my mom a lot sha. She's soooooo wise. Lol
9. What is the most daring or dangerous thing you've ever done? Scaled a fence.
10. What person in history would you most like to meet? Lee Kuan Yew- We need help in Nigeria.
11. What would you love for your next birthday gift? iphone 5

11...Questions

1. What do you love most about yourself?
2. Who are you in secret?
3. What's your best food?
4. Why do you blog?
5. Where is the one place you are most comfortable in?
6. Who do you call God?
7. do you know God or you know about Him?
8. What drives you?
9. In three words, who is a successful person?
10. what's the kindest thing you have ever done?
11. When you have a lot of money, what the first thought that crosses your mind?

11...Tags

1. Inyamu
2. Che
3. Doris
4. Lara
5. Olamide
6. Olufunke
7. Odd Naija Chic
8. Imisi
9. Dayor
10. Hazel
11. Simply mee
12. Please feel free to tag yourself if you read this post and "go with the flow"

I'll complete tasks 4 and 5 ASAP.
Xoxo

Without Fanfare

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Bored

Isn't it weird that I have a job, and yet I am bored. As a matter of fact, I have 2 jobs, and yet, I can't seem to find any interest in them any more. I wonder what happened?

Once upon a time I used to be very very excited about one of the jobs. It was like the coolest thing after leaving the banking industry. But recently, I seem to get "hungry". Not hungry for food, but hungry to do more. Make no mistake, my desk is always full to capacity with work, I just feel there is a lot I can do that I am not doing. Like I am being underutilized.

To make matters worse, everyone around me (my 2nd job) has gone for a training, and I wasn't included in the list. It makes me wonder...
Anyway, I'm in the office by myself of all the colleagues in my subsidiary group, and I have a dozen and one things to do, and yet I am BORED!!!

My mind is telling me its time to find "food"...wherever that may be!

I need to get back to my newsletter, its long overdue for publication. See y'all later!

Intro and more

Hello People!

Hope you're all doing well? Its going to be a fantastic and blessed week for us all.

So many things happened this weekend. 

We (T and I) had our introduction finally... (some of you know what I mean) and it was a beautiful event. It turned out bigger than I expected with over 50 people from his side, but I thank God. (My mum was prepared to feed a battalion, and the work it took to get all that food ready on Saturday was something else). I am grateful to God for the success of the event, and for the celebration of love, not just between me and T, but also by my family and friends. Special shout out to Deola and Wura for making it. I appreciate you guys.

I honestly can't recount all that happened, but I will share an interesting part with you. 

I was called into the parlor by my dad  (all this while, I was in the room while all their talk was going on) and he asked me to stand in front of everyone and asked T to state if it was me he wanted. T said yes, and my dad turned and told me that T and his people had come to ask for my hand, and he wanted me to say if I wanted to marry him. I said yes. Then he asked me to pick up the tray (with money in it from the centre table  (apparently T had put the money in it before I was called in) and if I agreed to be his wife, I should bring the Tray to him. I went to pick it up, and my mum suddenly screamed, saying why was I rushing to pick up the tray, that I should go slowly jor. Everyone started laughing. Lol...I guess I was just nervous with everyone looking and all, but that helped douse my nervousness. Then I walked slowly to pick it up and knelt to give it to my dad, who asked me to give it to my mum. He said that if she accepted it, then it meant she approved of my choice. I took it to her and knelt before her, she accepted it from me. T was beaming like a "peacock by this time and I had tears in my eyes...

Somehow, with all this going on, I really didn't feel like it was my own intro until we both knelt down for the Pastor to pray for us. By then, I actually started feeling like it was my event.

To other things, T and I went out on Sunday to the beach (Elegushi) and I really enjoyed myself. It was different, somehow, and magical. 

While we were there, I suddenly saw a bum pulling a swollen ram out of the water with his hand. I was surprised. Then the Life guards around dragged the animal somewhere to bury it. I was appalled. The animal was in the water and I know that the same water gets into people's mouth and all.  T said maybe they used it for "sacrifice", because I was wondering want a ram would be looking for at a beach. Needless to say, that was the end of my "play". I just sat very far from the water and "enjoyed the view" from my perch. I think all that "Tax"' they collect at the gate and to park your car should actually be put to good use. The beach should be kept clean and nice jor.

Then we went we went for the Faceoff Celebrity Basket ball show. It was interesting, but I had to leave by 10 because of work. While we were there, the MC was calling the names of celebrities, and he called Annie Macaulay's name shortly after Tuface's name. And i couldn't help asking- what does she do? and someone beside me said- "she makes babies for Tuface. Lol

Wishing you a lovely week ahead!!!

When Love isn't enough

What do you do when you realize that love isn't enough? After all has been said and done, and change still isn't forthcoming? When you drum in some things into the partners head, but the lessons are really hard to stick to? Or the partner just refuses to "learn"?

Do you close your eyes to it all and pretend that they are not there? Or do you voice out your opinion and be regarded as a "nag"? You already know the answer, but ask for people's opinion, and take it when it "favour's" you? 

"Love is patient and kind...it is not self-seeking...keeps no record of wrongs...it always hopes, always perseveres" (1 Cor. 13:4:7- NIV)", you might say. "But I am also human and imperfect" is my own defence.

Love for me is a beautiful thing, but it shouldn't cover up for the basics when they are not in place...love languages shouldn't be ignored, and individual feelings should be considered and respected.

I strongly believe that every one is significant and should be celebrated in a way that makes them feel appreciated and loved in return.

I 'm sorry if this comes out as jumbled, but I truly can't say more than this now.

They say "a word is enough for the wise", I hope the "wise" are reading this and have gotten "the word".

The 30 Day Challenge: Day 13- My Opinion About my Body and how Comfortable I am with it

My candid opinion? I think I am fabulous!

Being a plus size, I have always been self conscious about myself. I know I am beautiful, and people  tell me always that I have a great body. However, I think I will totally believe them if I can shed just a little bit of weight.

I like myself the way I am but honestly think and know the right thing to do. I have started going down a bit and believe me its’ not an easy task at all ( I can liken it to going down a mountain with stilettos). It’s that easy. To think that packing on the pounds is as easy as “ABC”.

Am I comfortable? My answer is no.

However, I will ask myself the question this challenge didn’t ask- Am I confident? My answer is YES!

The 30 Day Challenge: Day 12- Five Guys I find Attractive

Disclaimer

Because I find them attractive doesn’t mean anything. I just think they look “very nice” and if you happen to read this post and think otherwise, then I must say you are resting your back on okada.

Now to the post!

1.  Anthony O.
2. Odunayo B.
3. Kunle B.
4. Enobong I.
5. Damilola I. ( I couldn’t resist adding his name...)

By the way, Attractiveness- the degree to which a person's physical traits are regarded as aesthetically pleasing or beautiful- I just had to google it!

The 30 Day Challenge: Day 11 - My Family

I have the best family anyone can wish for.

From my dad right down to my baby brother, I love every one of them. We are closer than you will believe and still manage to live our individual lives. We stand by each other every time and God is the focal point in the tapestry of our lives.

A lot of people have told me that the love the unity of my family- we stand united always.

This is not to say that we are perfect, but that we try. Sometimes, I feel that they tend to “love too much”. At those points, I sincerely wish they didn’t have to and that they will just let me be. That never happens, and I get on with my life.

I come from a family of 10, and I thank God for making them a part of my world every single day!!!